Many pregnant women begin looking into adoption because they want to offer their children the best life possible. That life starts with the perfect adoptive family. So, if you’ve thought, “I need to start looking for parents to adopt my baby,” you’ve come to the right place.
When you choose adoption for your baby, your first goal is to ensure they’ll be in good hands. While no family is perfect, there is a hopeful adoptive family out there who is perfect for you and your baby. But how do you find them? With so many families to choose from, this decision can feel overwhelming.
You are not alone in this process. The adoption professionals at Lifetime Adoption can help take the guesswork out of making that perfect match. All our families have passed background checks, home inspections, interviews, and a home study. Our qualified families are just waiting for a birth mother to make that special connection. The hopeful adoptive families you see on our website are ready and eager to become parents through adoption!
But how can you ensure you choose the right adoptive parents for your baby? You can use this guide to find the perfect adoptive family who will fulfill your vision for your child’s future.
Make a List of What You Want for Your Child
Your first step in looking for parents to adopt your baby is to search your heart for the future you wish for you and your baby. Make a list of your preferences, so you can compare your needs to what potential adoptive families have to offer.
Where do you want them to live? What kind of jobs do you envision for them? What qualities are super important to you? Create a list of deal-breakers as well. For example, you might avoid families that don’t currently have kids if you wish for your baby to have siblings. You will use this list as a reference as you look at adoption profiles online.
Be honest about your desires and what you will be comfortable with. For example, many prospective birth mothers consider the following:
Many birth mothers have strong preferences about where their child will grow up. Do you picture your child growing up in the slower pace of a small town or a busy city? Is it important that your child lives in a culturally diverse community? If you choose to have an open adoption, it might also be important for you to live within a reasonable distance from the adoptive family.
Some prospective birth mothers want their child raised by parents of the same ethnicity. Others are willing to open their adoption preferences to all races.
Choosing a couple of the same ethnicity can provide peace of mind that your child’s ethnicity will be celebrated. Or perhaps you’re passionate about finding a mixed heritage family for your child so that they can grow up with different cultural traditions.
A home with two parents may offer more financial stability and emotional support for raising a child. For prospective birth mothers who choose adoption because their baby’s father is not involved, a two-parent home may be exactly what they wish for their child.
Different religions come with values and traditions that you may feel are important for your child’s upbringing. Some prospective birth mothers want their child raised in the same religion that they were brought up with.
It’s important to many birth parents that their child is raised to know God’s love. Adoptive families will typically list their faith in their profiles. Plus, you can ask questions about the family’s goals for a religious upbringing if this is important to you.
You can also ask adoptive couples which religious activities and rites they intend to follow, such as having their baby baptized, attending church services, helping them study for confirmation, and for Catholics, participating in First Communion.
Many hopeful adoptive couples choose adoption after a painful journey with infertility. Your choice will make their dream to become parents come true.
Other couples choose adoption because they are not yet done raising children. They will bring experience to the table and provide your child with the opportunity to have siblings. Each type of family has its benefits, but it’s up to you to decide the best match for your child.
Decide Which Type of Adoption Plan Works Best for You
Prospective birth mothers can choose to have a closed, semi-open, or open adoption plan. With an open adoption plan, you share identifiable information with the adoptive family and leave the door open for future updates and contact with your child.
You work with the adoptive parents to decide what type and how much contact you wish to maintain. It’s important to be honest about your wishes while looking for parents to adopt your baby.
Looking for Parents to Adopt My Baby – View Profiles
Once you have determined what you are looking for, it’s time to begin your search! Lifetime Adoption makes it easy to read information, see photos, and watch videos about families who want to add a new child to their home.
To start browsing adoptive family profiles online, visit LifetimeAdoption.com/search-adoptive-families. There, you can easily search for adoptive parents by choosing the search items that are important to you, including their ethnicity, the state they live in, their religion, whether they already have children, and more!
Use your list of preferences to determine which families might be a potential match. Then, ask questions to learn more.
With the information you find in adoptive family profiles, you can find the right fit for your baby. The characteristics and traits you see can help determine which families can provide the best home for your precious baby.
After you find the perfect adoptive family, you can email them or reach out to Lifetime Adoption for more information on them.
Get to Know Potential Adoptive Parents for Your Baby
Once you have narrowed down your list, your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help you get in contact with potential adoptive families. These conversations and in-person visits will give you a better understanding of the adoptive families’ values, lifestyle, and the future they have in store for your baby. This is the time to ask questions, so don’t hold back! Here are some common topics of conversation:
- Why did you choose to adopt?
- How will you talk to my child about their adoption?
- Tell me about your professions.
- Tell me about your faith.
- What are your other interests or hobbies?
- Are you close to your extended family?
- Do you travel?
- What kind of contact are you comfortable within our open adoption plan?
Remember, nothing is final until you decide. Just because you meet with a family doesn’t mean you have to choose them.
Take your time with this big decision, but let the families know when you do – they have their hearts on the line too. The day your adoptive family hears that you have chosen them will be a day they will never forget. Their joy may help you feel more confident in your choice to place your child for adoption.
Trust Your Instincts
As you get to know hopeful adoptive families, trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel authentic, or if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Be wary of anyone who promises too much. Promises mean nothing if there is no follow-through. It’s much more important for everyone to be honest about what they can commit to.
Your search to find the perfect adoptive family may be challenging. It will take some work to secure this essential piece of your child’s life plan. However, the time and energy you put into finding that perfect match will be worth it when you finally make that bond with the family who was meant for you.
Begin your search for the perfect adoptive family today by viewing
Lifetime’s adoptive family profiles online.
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on June 26, 2020, and has since been updated.
As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.