When you choose adoption for your baby, your first goal is to make sure that they’ll be in good hands. With open adoption, you get to choose from so many couples looking to adopt that you may feel as if you will never find “the one.”
One of the best things about working with an adoption professional like Lifetime is that each adoptive parent is pre-screened. Lifetime will only show you couples who have gone through the necessary background checks, home inspections, and interviews. You can be secure in the knowledge that your baby is going to a home that will value and love him or her. The hopeful adoptive families you’re seeing on our website are all ready and eager to become parents through adoption!
But how can you be sure you are choosing the right adoptive parents for your baby? These tips will help you make a decision that’s right for you, and right for your baby.
How to View Adoptive Families
Fortunately, you can see many of the families seeking to adopt online. Lifetime Adoption makes it easy to read information, see photos, and watch videos about the families who want to add a new child to their home. To start browsing adoptive family profiles online, visit LifetimeAdoption.com/find-a-family.
With the information you find in adoptive family profiles, you can find the perfect fit for your baby. The characteristics and traits you see can help you determine which families can provide the best home for your precious baby.
Create an Outline of Your Desires
One of the first things you should do in the selection process is to sit down and list the attributes you want the adoptive family to have. Where do you want them to live? What kind of jobs do you envision for them? What qualities are super important to you?
Create a list of deal-breakers as well. For example, you might choose to avoid families that prefer a closed adoption. You will use this list as a reference as you peruse the adoption profiles online.
Examine Profiles Carefully
As you look at the profiles, be prepared to examine every aspect of their lives. When you find a family that stands out, take a look at the different qualities and attributes that reach out to you.
Open or Closed Adoption?
Some families will state that they prefer a semi-open adoption, while others may feel passionate about open adoption. Open adoption can mean many things to different people, so you will need to communicate your mutual expectations with a potential adoptive family. Here’s a link to help you find out more about open adoption:
How to Find Out if Open Adoption is Right for You.
Many birth mothers have strong preferences about where their child will grow up. Some birth mothers may want their children to grow up near the countryside, while others want their children to grow up in a larger city. Additionally, some birth parents want their child to grow up somewhere near the ocean, in the Midwest, or the region where they grew up. On Lifetime Adoption’s “Find a Family” page, you can browse adoptive couples based on which area in the U.S. they live: West, Central, Northeast, or Southeast.
It’s important to many birth parents that their child is raised to know God’s love. Adoptive families will typically list their faith in their profiles. Plus, you can ask questions about the family’s goals for a religious upbringing if this is important to you.
You can also ask adoptive couples which religious activities and rites they intend to follow, such as getting your baby baptized, attending church services, helping them study for confirmation, and for Catholics, participating in First Communion.
Many birth mothers have preferences about the ethnicity of the adoptive family. They often want the adoptive parents to be the same ethnicity as the child. Choosing a couple of the same ethnicity can provide you peace of mind that your child’s own ethnicity will be celebrated. Or perhaps you’re passionate about finding a mixed heritage family for your child so that he or she can grow up with different cultural traditions.
Communicate With Adoptive Families
Once you have several candidates in line, your next step is to call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll help you arrange and schedule a phone call so that you can get to know the adoptive family.
Sometimes the impression you get over the phone helps make your decision a little bit easier. Not sure what to ask the adoptive couple? Read “What to Ask When You Meet with Adoptive Parents.” If you feel nervous about speaking with the families, you can facilitate the meeting through an Adoption Coordinator.
Getting Help in Your Search for Adoptive Parents
Do you still find yourself unsure of how to approach finding the right family for your child? An Adoption Coordinator can work with you to narrow down your choices based on your preferences. She can also listen to your concerns and provide information about the process when you don’t feel ready. Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to connect with an Adoption Coordinator today!
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P., is nationally recognized as an expert on open adoption. A Certiﬁed Open Adoption Practitioner (C.O.A.P.), Caldwell is the founder of Lifetime Adoption Center, established in 1986. She has assisted in over 2,000 successful adoptions and was one of the ﬁrst adoption professionals on the Internet.
Caldwell’s life work is dedicated to educating and helping birth parents find the right adoptive parents for their child. She spreads the word about modern adoption through speaking appearances, webinars, online resources, and as a podcast show host.
She has written several award-winning books, including So I Was Thinking About Adoption, the first book of its kind. There are many reasons women choose adoption, and this short book is a comprehensive resource to make the best plan for you and your baby. Caldwell wrote So I Was Thinking About Adoption as a handy guide to the details of the adoption process.
Caldwell has made over 150 media appearances, including ABC News, CBS News, Larry King Live, CNN Headline News, NBC’s The Today Show, CNN’s The Campbell Brown Show, NBC News, KGO Newstalk Radio, CNN’s Black in America II, MSNBC, Fox, PBS, BBC, and Dr. Laura.