If I Do Adoption, Will My Child Remember Me?

Many women who are thinking about adoption for their baby wonder if their child will know about them in the future.

Today we’re sharing 4 tips on how you can make sure your child will grow up knowing you!

1. Pick the Right Level of Contact for You

Think about the type of relationship that you want to have with the adoptive family. How open to do you want things to be? Some birth mothers like their adoption plan to be as open as visits with the adoptive family once or twice a year. Others choose to get updates on their child through Facebook and emails. The choice is yours!

2. Choose a Family Looking for Similar Contact

An adoptive couple who wants the same level of open adoption relationship would be a good fit for you. Every Lifetime adoptive family website and profile shares how much future contact they’re open to. Many are open to visits, and a good majority are open to some type of contact or another.

2. Share Info About Yourself to the Adoptive Family

Give as much information about yourself as you can to the adoptive family you picked. That way, they can share with your child. Lifetime feels that it’s vital for children to know about their birth mothers. So, the more info you can provide about yourself and your life, the better! It becomes very beneficial for your child as they grow up. It’s important for the adopted child to know the truth of their adoption. If they know they were adopted from an early age, then they can ask questions and gain knowledge about it.

4. Stay in Touch with the Family

Keep connected and in communication with your child’s adoptive parents, whether it’s through phone calls, emails, pictures, letters, social media, or visits. Staying connected throughout their life is a great way to make sure that your child is going to know who you are and remember you!

Lifetime’s adoptive families truly cherish birth mothers and are thankful for the gift of parenthood that birth moms give them. We’ve found that they love to talk about the birth parents in their home, and to answer the child’s questions. The information you provide the adoptive parents helps your child feel comfortable in their skin.

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 today to learn more about adoption as an option for your baby or child. 

There are always caring adoption coordinators available, who are happy to listen and help.

Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

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