Why Would I Consider Adoption?

by | Oct 10, 2017 | Birth Parent Blog

why-consider-adoption.jpgQuestion: I just found out I’m pregnant, and I’m freaking out about what I should do. I’m don’t think I could go through with abortion, and I don’t know how I’d make parenting work. So I’m wondering what are some common reasons that women choose adoption?

Answer: There are tons of reasons women choose adoption instead of parenting or abortion. For whatever reason, right now they’re not ready to parent. 

Lifetime has helped birth mothers of all ages, from 11 to 49! Here are a just a few of their reasons for choosing adoption:

  • Not physically (or mentally) able to parent
  • No support from baby’s father/he disappeared
  • Not ready to be a mom
  • Wish for her child to grow up with a stable, two-parent family
  • Life situation is unstable and unsettled
  • In college and feel it’s not fair to her child to parent right now
  • Desire to give her child more opportunities and a solid future  
  • Can’t afford another child.
  • Pregnancy is the result of rape and she wants something positive to come out of this situation.

Every day, women across the U.S. face the difficult choice about what to do with an unplanned pregnancy. So, whatever your reason is for considering adoption, know that you’re not alone. 

Modern adoption comes with many benefits to a birth mother. You have the power and the right to play an active role in the adoption process. Your many choices include picking your baby’s adoptive parents & meeting them, choosing how things will go at the hospital, deciding how much future contact you’d like with the adoptive family. By having all those choices, you have control over how your adoption plan goes. Many women have shared with us that having a say in their adoption plan helped them feel more positive about their decision.

In most states, birth mothers can get help with expenses during their pregnancy, such as medical fees, living expenses, food, and clothing. To find out what your state allows, give us a call at 1-800-923-6784. Lifetime has safe, loving, pre-approved adoptive families hoping to adopt.  When you call us, you’re able to speak with a non-judgmental adoption coordinator who is experienced in helping women facing what you are right now.


Call or text Lifetime Adoption anytime at 1-800-923-6784 to get more info about modern open adoption.

Heather Featherston

Written by Heather Featherston

As Vice President of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.

Read more about Heather Featherston


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